Sunday, February 15, 2009

LOVING THOSE WHO HAVE CAUSED US PAIN

I realize I am a day late but for Valentines Day, I wanted to be as positive as I can. This was emailed to me.............


LOVING THOSE WHO HAVE CAUSED US PAIN


By Nick Ralls

I send love to those people in my life who have betrayed, belitted me, dishonoured and disrespected me...I know that if I release them with love I can set myself free in the process.

HOW hard it can be for us to love those who have hurt us, belittled us o betrayed us!
But if we are to set ourselves free from the chains of resentment, anger, hatred or bitterness, we need to be able to send love to those people so we can set them free - and us in the process.
Put simply, if we hold anger or hurt towards a person we cannot feel peaceful and harmonious within ourselves. Our resentment and bitterness eats away at us, causing us pain.
We inwardly focus on those aspects of ourselves that are mirrored in the person who has given us such grief.
But if we can somehow release the person who has wronged us with love then it is a healing process for us. It gives us enormous power.
What if we look at that person with animosity or disdain?
How do we melt our own heart towards them?
We need to perceive them differently. People either are living in love or they are living out of love and therefore crying out for love.
So the person who has given you such a hard time is in the violent zone. In the fear zone.
Want to join them there? Of course not!
So see them as being in the fear zone and see how empowered you are because you have chosen to be in the love zone.
And from your love zone pour loving energy towards them. They will either change to take on some of that love power or your loving vibration will distance yourself from them... which can work for your life too!
But you have the power to release them with love.
If someone intimidates you or concerns you see them as the child they once were, screaming and shouting for attention and throwing their toys out of the pram when things went wrong. Perhaps they are still that little child, reliving in their adult life the hurts of their chidhood. See them as a child.
How can you not pour out love to a child?
Or look into the eyes of the other person... the eyes are the window to the soul. Look into the eyes and see the hurt in that person's eyes, knowing that as you go further down the landing strip to their heart you can recognise the same emotions that you yourself have inside of you... only everyone... yes everyone... wants love. Everyone wants love!
When we understand where people are coming from... when we can see their vulnerability and their fears we can love them because we are seeing them more clearly.
If we can put ourselves into the shoes of another person we can realise that we could so easily have adopted the same behaviours if we had endured the upbringing and lifestyle of that person.
As Mother Teresa says: Let's love them anyway.

So dear and special friend... see if you can love those who have hurt you, betrayed you and humiliated you.. because while you hold resentment you burn your own heart and when you can love them for the fearful human being they are you can release them with love and set yourself free in the process.



I agree with this, although I cannot fully at this point forget, I can forgive, and realize that the organism is sick.

No matter what you are going through or whom has hurt you remember to love!



Victoria Placeo


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