Wednesday, May 30, 2018

The Healing Trauma Summit

The Healing Trauma Summit is coming up. I have not blogged in quite some time but felt compelled to write about this. There are so many that deal with effects of trauma whether it be from an assault or something else.  It can be hard for people to reach out for help and for that reason I felt led to share this.
When things happen, many are on themselves. They think they should be able to handle it.  While being accountable for you actions and what you do is of course important we all need help at some point.  Counseling and EMDR was handed to me after my rape, therefore I did not need to ask for help.

Without is being there automatically I do not know if I would have sought out assistance. That is why I was excited when emailed about the Healing Trauma Summit. This is an online event that you can attend at no charge.
It has a bunch of speakers that will be covering a wide variety of topics, I will list some below. However, before I do that I would like to mention that I have reached the 10 Year anniversary of my sexual assault.  Many have asked how I am doing?

Well, to be honest I am struggling with anxiety. My gut tells me it is not from the assault but others disagree. I have no flashbacks but many memories.  The memories however do have to many emotions attached to them, so they are just memories.

I learn after I was raped not to identify with the event.  It was not who I was and it was not my fault. I have heard from many people that they cannot separate the emotion. They asked how I did it, and in short it was a process of structured thinking really.

I will describe my personal way of separating the assault from emotion in another post. Right now, I want to keep sharing about the Trauma Summit because it starts on June 4th. Registration for the event is now open.

The summit is 7 days long with 25 training sessions. Each session is about 30 minutes long. You can attend all of the presentations or pick and choose. There are many different speakers covering many different topics such as:

  •   Dawson Church, PhD "Using EFT to Heal Trauma
  • Edith Eger, PhD "To Be or Not to Be—Victim or Survivor?"
  • David Emerson "Trauma-Sensitive Yoga"
  • Laurel Parnell, PhD "Attachment-Focused EMDR
  • Plus, so much more I cannot cover here

When you register you will get a scheduled of the topics, the times and dates.  There will also be a replay day I believe. Plus, you have the ability to purchase the entire summit at a discount if you want to. I will be attending do to the anxiety that has come up, so I may share what I learned in a future post.

I really hope people have read some of my past posts or are still reading and this blog has helped in some way. If you have leave me a comment and say hi! To register for the Healing Trauma Summit, you can go HERE.

Thursday, April 23, 2015

National Crime Victims Rights Week 2015


Well I am a little late on writing this but better late than never, this week is National Crime Victims Rights week, during this week the Office For Victims Of Crime or OVC recognizes organizations, programs, people etc. for supporting victims and victim services and these recipients are recognized at the National Crime Victims’ Service Awards Ceremony which was already held.  In honor of this week I want to recognize and thank one person in particular who assisted me right after the rape. Now I will not name names but I will tell you the story of what she did for me and why I will never forget her. 

Right after the sexual assault I called 911 as I hid in the bathroom, although things are a bit hazy about that time, I do remember 4 to 5 men responders and at the time it was not what I wanted to see.  Then in she came, she was a volunteer from the fire department and the only women there.  She escorted the men out of the bathroom and sat with me encouraging me to get to the ambulance.  Now I don’t really remember how I actually go into the ambulance or the ride to hospital but was I do know is that she was there the entire time.

At the hospital I did not want anyone to know what happened, and at that time in the morning I really do not know if anyone would answer, but she stayed with me.  Keep in mind she was a volunteer for the fire department not an assault provider and with the little we spoke between my tears and shock I learned that she had to go to her full time job in 4 to 5 hours, but yet she stayed. I even recall telling her I would be ok if she had to leave but she never did.  I remember her talking with me, what she said I do not remember, she held my hand, and she was there when she did not have to be. She sat in the room during the entire rape kit, the cleaning of my wounds, everything, and she had an entire day ahead of her! She stayed because she cared, because it was the right thing to do, she even took me home when it was all done.

About a month or two after the rape I was driving to the courthouse and it dawned on me. She was the ONLY one who took the time to be with me during that awful time, even though she had a full shift ahead of her and from what I recall perhaps even children at home.  I do not remember why I had her number but I called right then and there to thank her and even though I did that it still to me was not enough.  It is people like her that should be fully honored during National Crime Victims Rights week 2015 and as far as I concerned she should be honored every day!

Now she may never read this, or know how I think of her often and the selflessness she displayed by being there for me that night, but in honor of National Victims Rights Crime Week I honor her, I thank her, I would give her some huge award if I could, and from that experience she is a constant reminder that even in the darkest of places and in a world where so many awful things are happening there are people who care about others whether they know them or not. That being said I care about all of you who are reading this and especially those who have been a victim of rape or any other crime, whether you believe it or not I do think and pray for my readers.

I would love to hear in the comments below or in an email who you would honor for this National Victims of Crime Week 2015!

Victoria

Thursday, February 19, 2015

EMDR VS EFT

If you are someone who is trying to decide between EMDR or EFT, I am going to share my experiences with them.  I would say they both have their benefits as well as their similarities and differences. I figured I should address this because my last post was about the Tapping World Summit.  As Usual please keep in mind I am not an EMDR therapist or a certified EFT practitioner and none of what I write here is to be taken as medical advice (I really just need to add a disclaimer to my site:).  So on we go EMDR VS EFT.

First let’s clarify the differences between the two.  EMDR is a Trauma treatment and it stands for Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing. EMDR uses bilateral eye movements, taps, and tones while focusing on an issue.  When I was in my EMDR therapy, I would pick a traumatic memory and put a number to it.  The therapist would then move her fingers back and forth while I followed them with my eyes. I focused on a memory and then as she put it, like a train one memory was linked to another to another.  We would keep doing it until the number lowered or another memory came up that was stronger and focused on that.

EFT Stands for Emotional Freedom Technique the way it is described is a type of intervention based on various theories of alternative medicine.  Like EMDR EFT has you focus on a specific issue and give it a number and then tap on your meridian points while using positive statements and other sayings to lower the score.  EFT is also known as tapping or Meridian tapping, and when I use it I pick an issue, tap the points and use a saying such as “Even though I ______ I love and accept myself.”

The above are just brief descriptions of what they both are I will post the sites below so you can look for yourself.    So EMDR or EFT? The similarities of EMDR and EFT is that you pick an issue, give it a score, tap or move your eyes, and keep going until the score lessens or another more powerful issue you need to focus on comes up. Remember this is coming from a person who has been through both, not from a practitioner standpoint.  Both bring up more issues, both resolve issues.

The differences I note between EFT and EMDR while researching is the are the 8 phases that EMDR has, as well as having a therapist there to reprocess, and other psychological things that you can read on the page below.  Another difference is that EMDR is seems to be more accepted in the counseling field than EFT does.

I would have to say that both were helpful to me; however the Emotional freedom technique is easier to use at home and to learn and do on your own.  Other than that I found they both had their benefits.  If you are trying to make a decision between EMDR or EFT as a person who has been through both and uses them today, I would say try them both.  You can find an EMDR therapist on the site below and you can learn EFT free HERE.

My Bottom Line on EMDR VS EFT, I prefer the Emotional Freedom Technique, it works faster, clears away gunk, and brings up more gunk to process through. That being said I would not mind hearing from those who have also done both EMDR and EFT or practitioners.


Victoria