Thursday, April 23, 2015

National Crime Victims Rights Week 2015


Well I am a little late on writing this but better late than never, this week is National Crime Victims Rights week, during this week the Office For Victims Of Crime or OVC recognizes organizations, programs, people etc. for supporting victims and victim services and these recipients are recognized at the National Crime Victims’ Service Awards Ceremony which was already held.  In honor of this week I want to recognize and thank one person in particular who assisted me right after the rape. Now I will not name names but I will tell you the story of what she did for me and why I will never forget her. 

Right after the sexual assault I called 911 as I hid in the bathroom, although things are a bit hazy about that time, I do remember 4 to 5 men responders and at the time it was not what I wanted to see.  Then in she came, she was a volunteer from the fire department and the only women there.  She escorted the men out of the bathroom and sat with me encouraging me to get to the ambulance.  Now I don’t really remember how I actually go into the ambulance or the ride to hospital but was I do know is that she was there the entire time.

At the hospital I did not want anyone to know what happened, and at that time in the morning I really do not know if anyone would answer, but she stayed with me.  Keep in mind she was a volunteer for the fire department not an assault provider and with the little we spoke between my tears and shock I learned that she had to go to her full time job in 4 to 5 hours, but yet she stayed. I even recall telling her I would be ok if she had to leave but she never did.  I remember her talking with me, what she said I do not remember, she held my hand, and she was there when she did not have to be. She sat in the room during the entire rape kit, the cleaning of my wounds, everything, and she had an entire day ahead of her! She stayed because she cared, because it was the right thing to do, she even took me home when it was all done.

About a month or two after the rape I was driving to the courthouse and it dawned on me. She was the ONLY one who took the time to be with me during that awful time, even though she had a full shift ahead of her and from what I recall perhaps even children at home.  I do not remember why I had her number but I called right then and there to thank her and even though I did that it still to me was not enough.  It is people like her that should be fully honored during National Crime Victims Rights week 2015 and as far as I concerned she should be honored every day!

Now she may never read this, or know how I think of her often and the selflessness she displayed by being there for me that night, but in honor of National Victims Rights Crime Week I honor her, I thank her, I would give her some huge award if I could, and from that experience she is a constant reminder that even in the darkest of places and in a world where so many awful things are happening there are people who care about others whether they know them or not. That being said I care about all of you who are reading this and especially those who have been a victim of rape or any other crime, whether you believe it or not I do think and pray for my readers.

I would love to hear in the comments below or in an email who you would honor for this National Victims of Crime Week 2015!

Victoria

Thursday, February 19, 2015

EMDR VS EFT

If you are someone who is trying to decide between EMDR or EFT, I am going to share my experiences with them.  I would say they both have their benefits as well as their similarities and differences. I figured I should address this because my last post was about the Tapping World Summit.  As Usual please keep in mind I am not an EMDR therapist or a certified EFT practitioner and none of what I write here is to be taken as medical advice (I really just need to add a disclaimer to my site:).  So on we go EMDR VS EFT.

First let’s clarify the differences between the two.  EMDR is a Trauma treatment and it stands for Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing. EMDR uses bilateral eye movements, taps, and tones while focusing on an issue.  When I was in my EMDR therapy, I would pick a traumatic memory and put a number to it.  The therapist would then move her fingers back and forth while I followed them with my eyes. I focused on a memory and then as she put it, like a train one memory was linked to another to another.  We would keep doing it until the number lowered or another memory came up that was stronger and focused on that.

EFT Stands for Emotional Freedom Technique the way it is described is a type of intervention based on various theories of alternative medicine.  Like EMDR EFT has you focus on a specific issue and give it a number and then tap on your meridian points while using positive statements and other sayings to lower the score.  EFT is also known as tapping or Meridian tapping, and when I use it I pick an issue, tap the points and use a saying such as “Even though I ______ I love and accept myself.”

The above are just brief descriptions of what they both are I will post the sites below so you can look for yourself.    So EMDR or EFT? The similarities of EMDR and EFT is that you pick an issue, give it a score, tap or move your eyes, and keep going until the score lessens or another more powerful issue you need to focus on comes up. Remember this is coming from a person who has been through both, not from a practitioner standpoint.  Both bring up more issues, both resolve issues.

The differences I note between EFT and EMDR while researching is the are the 8 phases that EMDR has, as well as having a therapist there to reprocess, and other psychological things that you can read on the page below.  Another difference is that EMDR is seems to be more accepted in the counseling field than EFT does.

I would have to say that both were helpful to me; however the Emotional freedom technique is easier to use at home and to learn and do on your own.  Other than that I found they both had their benefits.  If you are trying to make a decision between EMDR or EFT as a person who has been through both and uses them today, I would say try them both.  You can find an EMDR therapist on the site below and you can learn EFT free HERE.

My Bottom Line on EMDR VS EFT, I prefer the Emotional Freedom Technique, it works faster, clears away gunk, and brings up more gunk to process through. That being said I would not mind hearing from those who have also done both EMDR and EFT or practitioners.


Victoria

Sunday, February 1, 2015

The Tapping World Summit 2015 With Nick Ortner



As mentioned in the last post I was going to be writing about things that have helped me with emotional rape recovery and The Tapping World Summit 2015 is one of them.  While many traditional things have worked as well, I found that when I looked at other ways of healing not only did it help my sexual assault recovery stages but all types of hurt and trauma I has prior.  Please do remember I am not a doctor or therapist and in no way to I write this post as a recommendation for anyone’s recovery, one must seek proper medical or psychological sexual assault therapy techniques. Now moving on.

The Nick Ortner Tapping World summit is a free event that is online and lasts a total of 10 days I believe, you can see it HERE. I have heard of EFT Tapping prior to the rape but really took a second look when I was in EMDR for PTSD.  I have written many past posts about EMDR for Sexual assault you can find on this blog.  During my EMDR therapy for trauma sessions I was taught to tap my legs left, right, left, right, and how that in any situation can calm you down.  The tapping therapy for PTSD works in a similar way, while it is much easier to do the tapping on both legs in public, in private EFT works very well.

EFT stands for Emotional Freedom technique also known as tapping; it works when you combine the tapping locations and technique, and the positive affirmations that is why I am mentioning the Tapping World Summit 2015.  During this free event Nick Ortner The Tapping solution author guides you through the EFT tapping points and how to do it.  The event focuses on many areas of life, and this year not only will they do the emotional freedom technique anxiety and stress, but one of the days is called From Trauma to Grace: The Healing Potential of Tapping in Our Lives and Our World, I was pretty excited!!

The Tapping solution has been holding the Summit for a few years now and I have attended each one.  This is the 7th Tapping world summit and it begins on February 23rd, but in preparation for it there is a series of videos being released, the first is released tomorrow.   What I love about the summit and the technique is once you know it you can do it for anything, wherever you are.  It works fast and I feel better within minutes.  Remember, although I am stating that the Tapping World summit is very much worth attending (especially since it is free) it is not to take the place of medical treatment.

Whether you are still experiencing the sexual assault recovery stages or you are dealing with sexual assault triggers, I recommend attending the Tapping World Summit 2015 event of course while you are continuing to do your traditional medical and sexual assault therapy techniques.  If anyone has attended this event or has tried EFT tapping please let me know how it worked for you.

To Check Out This Event Click HERE

Victoria