Saturday, February 28, 2009

Suicide and Suicidal Thoughts After Rape

My last post stated that " I hate people", I do not hate people. Last night was the second severe suicidal nights I have had since the rape.

Of course, after losing everything, I have had many suicidal thoughts, but not were like the two nights I speak of now.

I actually reached rock bottom, and went to the extent of looking for pills and getting out knives. Now needless to say I am not dead:) But I must mention that I had never gotten that low.

In the past working with people who were suicidal what I understood was that they were in pain. I understood that it was not a matter of selfishness, due to the depth of pain. I never knew the real depth until now.

It is difficult to explain, but I will give it my best shot.............

The pain is agonizing, there is a broken heart and spirit. There are daggers shooting from the inside poking individually and then all at once. The daggers are pain, despair, hopelessness, no positives to existing, burden, gut wrenching loss of the love of life.

At the point I reached there was no consideration of others for two reasons as I can see it now.

One the agony is so intense that everything else falls to the wayside. Much like a migraine or a severe pain. When you have that physical pain not much that goes on around you matters. It is exactly the same.

The second reason is I feel and felt like I am a burden. If I was not a burden then my family would have been there more. If I was not a burden my friends would not have left and those that have stayed would ask how I was doing. In my mind, I believed that I would be doing them a favor. I thought that they would get over it quickly and may even look at my death as a relief.

When not in the depths, I can see these things. I know that loving is the answer to many problems. But in the depths, I am not in my right mind. I have recognized the feelings and will try to ward off such depths in the future but of course there is no guarantee.

I attribute my survival to my upbringing of being Catholic ( I am not Catholic anymore). Being brought up Catholic put the fear of hell in my deepest beliefs. It is my hope that in that depth, I will still remember hell.

Out of all of this, I wanted to get one point across...............

If someone tells you they are suicidal believe them regardless of what is comfortable to you. It is not about you. If they came to you they are in some way asking for help.

If they are an habitual in their suicide threats, they are still coming to you for help, or attention. I am not a psychologist but whether for attention or the real deal they need some sort of help.

The last thing you want is to know is that someone was suicidal, they succeeded, you knew about it........talk about guilt.

Please know in some way that they need you!


Victoria Placeo


Friday, February 27, 2009

I HATE PEOPLE

That's it , that is all, I HATE PEOPLE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Victoria Placeo

Thursday, February 26, 2009

Rapelay Japanese Computer Game- YOU HAVE GOT TO BE FREAKING KIDDING ME!!

But no, no one is kidding, I can't believe a computer game about rape, I stand firm on some things and try to see others point of view on others but I am holding my ground on this one.

The article is found here at SKYNEWS:

A Japanese computer game that lets players simulate raping girls has had its sales blocked by Amazon.

The 'RapeLay' videogame was available to buy on the web store via a third-party seller specialising in Hentai - sexually explicit Japanese animation products.

"We determined that we did not want to be selling this particular item," an Amazon spokeswoman said.

Rapelay was reportedly created exclusively for the Japanese market but a couple of "like new" copies were being offered on Amazon.

The game was released in 2006 by Illusion studio, based in Japan.

Other titles from the studio include 'Battle Raper' and 'Artificial Girl'.

According to game review site Giant Bomb, RapeLay is a "molestation simulation that allows you to terrorise a woman and her two teenage daughters, with events ranging from groping on a train to gang rape and forced abortions".

The Belfast Telegraph reported that Labour MP Keith Vaz said he was shocked by the Amazon listing and planned to raise the issue in Parliament.

Mr Vaz told the paper: "It's intolerable that anyone would purchase a game that simulates the criminal offence of rape.

"To know that this is widely available through a major online retailer is utterly shocking. I do not see how this can be allowed.

"I will be raising this matter in Parliament and hope that action is taken to prevent the game from being sold."


Okay here I go...............


Apparently there are some people who disagree with Amazon and other retailers from banning the game. Their reasoning it is fiction, it is not real. Well yes it is a video game............BUT THE GAME ACTIONS ARE NOT REAL, WHAT PART OF THAT DON'T YOU UNDERSTAND.

Let me clarify........Rape happens everyday, everywhere, ruining live of numerous people. Now, those who disagree, perhaps it doesn't effect you, so you don't care, fine. As I have read from different posts on this many say everyone has different things they like.......fine everyone is an individual, and although you may not agree with rape, the video game is okay........okay, i see, THAT MAKES ALOT OF SENSE!!!

Now let's put it into perspective, if the video game is okay with you supporters, let's do this.

Lets make a video game of the loss of your friend or family member, and the main focus is how we can add to the grieving until you want to kill yourself, that would be fun....

How about a game of the your significant other cheating on you and we can tempt them to add to your suffering........

I know lets make a game out of you job loss and have fun playing as we add all the numerous pitfalls you run into............

Do we need it more violent?

Okay lets make a game where you and your family are the target and we can torture you in 1000 different ways......fun fun

Lets make a loss game where we can remove one by one everything you have every known to be yours.........special features make them a paraplegic, burn victim, or maybe a plane crash for that fun flying stuff.......yeah..........

I think your getting my point........in conclusion.........

UNTIL SOMEONE TIES YOU UP AGAINST YOUR WILL BEATS YOU AND SHOVES A BASEBALL BAT UP YOUR A@@............DONT MAKE ASSUMPTIONS ON WHAT IS FICTION!

AND FOR ALL YOU SUPPORTERS IF YOU DON'T GET THAT LAST STATEMENT THEN I SAY THIS.......... YOU MAY NEVER COMPLAIN ABOUT ANYTHING BAD THAT HAPPENS TO YOU EVER.........WHY BECAUSE NO ONE CARES, IT IS FICTION, JUST LIKE RAPELAY........YOU ARE NOW FICTION!


Enjoy your fictional life ................

And thank you Amazon and other retailers that have pulled this off the shelf!


Fictionally Yours


Victoria Placeo

Wednesday, February 25, 2009

Insomnia After Rape and Secondary Victim

The Rock, my main secondary victim wrote and entry about sleep. My best guest is because since the rape my sleep has been horrible.

I go nights without sleeping, some when I am tired, some when I am wide awake. If I do fall asleep it is for a few hours.

I try not to nap during the day but sometimes I crash, but even then it is only for 2 to 4 hours.

The bad thing is I cannot take any type of sleeping aids because they do not work for me.

Here is what The Rock had to say:

Nightmares and the Secondary Survivor:

Sleep, most us take it for granted as either a recreational weekend afternoon nap or the well-deserved flop into bed at the end of a long day. As Victoria's Rock I can now add a third category. Something that can utterly terrify her, she has told me of the nightmares that she is experiencing. If you recall "A Nightmare on Elm Street" you'll remember the girl's father and mother telling her that all she needs is sleep and she'll feel better, but sleep is the thing she fears the most. I have found myself in a similar situation. I have and still do on occasion thought that if Victoria could get some sleep, she would feel better the next day. This leads me to wonder how I can watch a movie, think how stupid that character is for telling his daughter sleep then turn right around and think that sleep would be the best for Victoria. What I don't know and can't help her with are her dreams. She has even recently told me that she didn't want to sleep, but so ingrained are our thoughts that sleep can only be good, we fail to take into account that this is not always the case. We as secondary survivors can see only a little of what our loved one is going through. I can see it externally at times, but I don't know what is really going on in her dreams during the night. We need to keep the fact that we don't know these things in perspective. Probably the worst thing you can say is "I understand." We can't. It took me a long time to realize that I would never really understand what she is going through and the fear that she feels everyday.

-The Rock

I cried when I read this and I cry now. The Rock is correct, I am scared to sleep. I realized that in the beginning but now, I didn't really see it that way. I thought it was just an issue, but I was in bed when the door was kicked open, I was terrified to sleep after that, and now I can't sleep.

I love The Rock for his insight, and I love that he mentioned "Nightmare of Elm Street." I love those movies...............


Sleep well


Victoria Placeo

Tuesday, February 24, 2009

The Vagina Monologues and V Day Event

Last week I wrote about "The Vagina Monologues" being put on at an establishment that had my convicted rapist on the webpage.

I blogged about how it bothered me, how I thought it was a bad business move, and if I was going to attend.

It was held for 3 days and I did not attend the event, I thought about it daily but I just decided not to go for a few reasons.

First, I thought that the gall of having such a play for such a good reason at an establishment like that was disgusting.

Second, after speaking with the Executive Director of the group that was going to receive the funds, I was very discouraged, and felt that I was raped all over again. She said that their group did not pick the location and therefore there was nothing she could do.....she was in the play. She also said that my therapist had come to her with concern about the same issue, but yet nothing could be done. THIS WAS THE SAME ORGANIZATION THAT WAS SUPPOSE TO SHOW UP WHILE I WAS IN THE HOSPITAL, GETTING THE RAPE KIT DONE, AND DID NOT!!

Third, I just could not imagine going back to the establishment because I use to hang out there and everyone knew.

So I did not attend and believe it was for the best........however my therapist did attend. The same therapist that tried to get the organism off the website. I like her a lot, she is a smart woman and very compassionate, yet not enabling. But, I don't understand, either you take a stance or you don't.......seems hypocritical to me.

At therapy yesterday, she was telling me about the event. What peoples reactions seemed to be, parts of the play etc. Nice of her to share..........BUT IF I WANTED TO KNOW I WOULD HAVE GONE!

One nice thing she did share was that one of the bartenders was wearing a shirt that said "got consent." It made me feel better because I used to hang out at that place and I perhaps knew that bartender.

So in summary I didn't go, I would like to see it someday, but I could not see myself be that hypocritical..........



Victoria Placeo

Sunday, February 22, 2009

The Rock Secondary Survivor Of Rape

The Rock blogged this on RASA Survivors it is a great entry from a secondary victim of rape or sexual assault...........

What does one do when someone they know is raped? I had no clue. It first came out from Victoria that she was hurt the night before we were to get together. I knew she was a pretty tough person, so I casually expressed my concern and hoped that she would be feeling better soon. It was a little while (15 minutes or so) later that we spoke again and she said she was “hurt” it dawned on me that something more than her being hurt had happened. I finally asked, hoping that I wouldn’t get the answer, if she had been raped.

That word, at once simple and violent had come to light. What does one do? The biggest thing that I have found was that her safety and security was shattered. Trying to provide that was my first focus. Providing a safe haven for your loved one, I believe, is paramount. We, as secondary survivors, don’t really need to “do” anything but be around. Even if it is just on the periphery, we are the touchstone that survivors need.

-The Rock


A book is being written for friends, family, and secondary survivors of rape, I will keep you posted.




Victoria Placeo

Saturday, February 21, 2009

Some Good News-Facebook gives sex offenders the boot

I was very pleased and amused when I received this below a copy of the email:


Facebook gives sex offenders the boot
More than 5,500 removed between May 1, 2008, and Jan. 31, 2009

updated 5:38 p.m. MT, Thurs., Feb. 19, 2009
RALEIGH, North Carolina - Facebook has removed more than 5,500 convicted sex offenders from its social networking Web site since May, Connecticut's attorney general said Thursday.

Richard Blumenthal said the world's largest social networking site, which claims to have more than 175 million active members, reported to his office that 5,585 convicted sex offenders were found on the Web site and removed between May 1, 2008, and Jan. 31, 2009.

"The message in this number is Facebook has an equal stake in solving this problem of protecting children," said Blumenthal, who along with North Carolina Attorney General Roy Cooper has led an effort remove sex offenders from the social networking Web sites.

"They have an equal stake in the predator problem and its solution."

Earlier this month, rival networking site MySpace announced it had removed 90,000 sex offenders in a two-year period.

Last year, the attorneys general got both sites to implement dozens of safeguards, including finding better ways to verify users' ages and putting limits on older users' ability to search the profiles of members under 18.

Chris Kelly, Facebook's chief privacy officer, said the convicted sexual offenders on the site were found through user reports, working with local law enforcement agencies and using the national sex offender registry.

He said Facebook's focus on members using their real names and identities helps discourage sex offenders, and even more is being planned to prevent them from registering. Earlier this month, Facebook officials said policy dictated that no convicted sex offender be allowed to keep a Facebook page.

Kelly said the company has pitched a proposal to attorneys general around the country to develop a real-time system cross-checking available outlets and "block any registration from the get-go."

"Our policy has been to remove convicted sex offenders when they are reported or identified through any means," Kelly said.


This is great, at least people are paying attention!! Hopefully this will keep someone safe, that would have never known they were not.


I find it amusing that it states that MySpace removed 90,000 (don't get me wrong it is a good thing) but that mine is still there.......oh well..........at least 90,000 were removed........and my organism is in prison.


Funny things you notice, they started the removal May 1, 2008, my rape occurred just weeks later.........hmmm......really no relevance there just something you notice I guess.


I am on Facebook with no face....lol....but no friends yet, so please join me here http://profile.to/victoria_placeo/




Victoria Placeo



Wednesday, February 18, 2009

I've lost my trust since the rape

My trust is gone. I try to be positive, give people the benefit of the doubt, but something always happens that shatters it.

I am sure I am ultra sensitive to people, I know I am, but very few, if any take into account what has happened to me. They want to see happy, moving forward Victoria. They want to believe she seems okay.

I trusted the organism until it started getting possessive.

I trusted the organism never to harm me.

I trusted my family that in times of crisis they would be there, emotionally, economically, in all ways, but yet they were not.

I trusted my friends, to understand, to have empathy. Not to enable me, but to be that ear, and not right off the bat tell me I needed to move on ( I already knew that)

I trusted the sense of community, that in times of trouble they would help a neighbor.

I trusted my job especially because I worked with victims, to be empathetic and not fire me.

I trusted the state to give me unemployment and to be there during this civil issue.

I gave people the benefit of the doubt upon relocating and was friendly and tried to make conversation. Some of this community are kind, but others are rude, and treat me like I am from a foreign country.

I trusted people to donate a dollar , one dollar, because I need help. Much of what I have done over my 15 years of working, but not one. I am in need economically, although it is getting better, but no one is there.

Of course I appreciate individuals offering advice on where to get aid, but I have tried them and there is nothing.

I need help, I am tired of fighting, I am tired of letting go, I am tired of pretending I am okay, and I am tired of being rejected in my time of need.

I know the date, it is the 9 month anniversary of the rape, I don't forget, 9 months and 20 hours ago I was violently raped, and there is no one.

FOR CRAPS SAKES EVEN CASEY ANTHONY IS GETTING MONEY............ AND I AM A SURVIVOR OF RAPE.........

I need you, God, anyone..............




Victoria Placeo

Tuesday, February 17, 2009

Do I Attend The Event For VDAY?

Two days ago I blogged about an event being put on for VDAY. The funds are going to a local, well ex-local, organization that helps women from violence.

The part that upset me is that it is being held at a bar that supports the organism who raped me on their MySpace website.

Even more disturbing is that I spoke with the "Executive Director" of the organization that the funds are going to, and she said there was nothing they could do.

So to reiterate, a theatre group is putting on "The Vagina Monologues" with the funds going to an organization to help women. The production is being held at a bar with my convicted rapist on the site, and the organization says nothing can be done.

They will continue to hold a fundraiser for victims at a place that supports a convicted rapist.

My question is do I attend? It is being held for 3 days this week. Do I go to that place and look those people who know me and what happened in the eye.

I would love to go there and say.......YOU HOLD A FUNDRAISER NOW? WHERE THE HELL WERE YOU WHEN I NEEDED YOU?

However, I would not do that. I really want anyone who reads this to feel free and email there opinions.

I am angered, disgusted, and torn on what to do........



Victoria Placeo

Sunday, February 15, 2009

Convicted Rapist Supporter Hold Event For V-Day

According to VDAY.org: "V-Day is a global movement to stop violence against women and girls. V-Day is a catalyst that promotes creative events to increase awareness, raise money and revitalize the spirit of existing anti-violence organizations. V-Day generates broader attention for the fight to stop violence against women and girls, including rape, battery, incest, female genital mutilation (FGM) and sexual slavery."

Now that is a nobel cause, however, in my situation there is a great hypocrisy.........

A local theatre company is putting on " The Vagina Monologues" and donating the proceeds to a an organization that fights violence against women...........

That also seems like a nobel cause, however, the group has decided to hold it at the establishment that I and my convicted rapist used to spend a large amount of time together at, now does that really mean anything? Not Really.........but wait!!!

The theatre company is holding this event at this establishment that has my convicted rapist on there MySpace website as a friend................NOW DOES ANYONE SEE ANYTHING WRONG WITH THAT? BUT WAIT......................

I spoke to the executive director of the organization that the funds are going to and let her know that my convicted rapist is on the website of where they are going to hold the play. NOW SHOULD THAT MAKE A DIFFERENCE TO AN "EXECUTIVE DIRECTOR" ........YES..........BUT WAIT.................

After I spoke with her, her response was I understand that the location might be upsetting to you......well yes it is..........BUT THAT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH IT!

She also said that unfortunately her organization has no choice where the production was going to be and if they choose to support the convicted rapist, it is out out her hands. NOW DOES ANYONE SEE WHAT IS WRONG WITH THIS PICTURE?

If not let me sum it up............... A theatre company is holding "The Vagina Monologues" for an organization that fights violence against women, at an establishment that has a convicted rapist on the site for VDAY, and they know about it!!! NOW DOES ANYONE THINK THAT IS A PROBLEM?

On a last note, that same "organization" that fights violence against women was suppose to show up an be there for me in the hospital during the rape kit....................NO ONE CAME!!!!!!!


NOW IS THERE A PROBLEM? YOU TELL ME? AND IF YES, WHAT DO YOU SUGGEST I DO?

And, by the way, this is a bad "executive" decision in my opinion, I would not want this person running a business!


Victoria Placeo

LOVING THOSE WHO HAVE CAUSED US PAIN

I realize I am a day late but for Valentines Day, I wanted to be as positive as I can. This was emailed to me.............


LOVING THOSE WHO HAVE CAUSED US PAIN


By Nick Ralls

I send love to those people in my life who have betrayed, belitted me, dishonoured and disrespected me...I know that if I release them with love I can set myself free in the process.

HOW hard it can be for us to love those who have hurt us, belittled us o betrayed us!
But if we are to set ourselves free from the chains of resentment, anger, hatred or bitterness, we need to be able to send love to those people so we can set them free - and us in the process.
Put simply, if we hold anger or hurt towards a person we cannot feel peaceful and harmonious within ourselves. Our resentment and bitterness eats away at us, causing us pain.
We inwardly focus on those aspects of ourselves that are mirrored in the person who has given us such grief.
But if we can somehow release the person who has wronged us with love then it is a healing process for us. It gives us enormous power.
What if we look at that person with animosity or disdain?
How do we melt our own heart towards them?
We need to perceive them differently. People either are living in love or they are living out of love and therefore crying out for love.
So the person who has given you such a hard time is in the violent zone. In the fear zone.
Want to join them there? Of course not!
So see them as being in the fear zone and see how empowered you are because you have chosen to be in the love zone.
And from your love zone pour loving energy towards them. They will either change to take on some of that love power or your loving vibration will distance yourself from them... which can work for your life too!
But you have the power to release them with love.
If someone intimidates you or concerns you see them as the child they once were, screaming and shouting for attention and throwing their toys out of the pram when things went wrong. Perhaps they are still that little child, reliving in their adult life the hurts of their chidhood. See them as a child.
How can you not pour out love to a child?
Or look into the eyes of the other person... the eyes are the window to the soul. Look into the eyes and see the hurt in that person's eyes, knowing that as you go further down the landing strip to their heart you can recognise the same emotions that you yourself have inside of you... only everyone... yes everyone... wants love. Everyone wants love!
When we understand where people are coming from... when we can see their vulnerability and their fears we can love them because we are seeing them more clearly.
If we can put ourselves into the shoes of another person we can realise that we could so easily have adopted the same behaviours if we had endured the upbringing and lifestyle of that person.
As Mother Teresa says: Let's love them anyway.

So dear and special friend... see if you can love those who have hurt you, betrayed you and humiliated you.. because while you hold resentment you burn your own heart and when you can love them for the fearful human being they are you can release them with love and set yourself free in the process.



I agree with this, although I cannot fully at this point forget, I can forgive, and realize that the organism is sick.

No matter what you are going through or whom has hurt you remember to love!



Victoria Placeo


Tuesday, February 10, 2009

Secondary Victim of Rape - The Rock

I am not the only one that suffers. This is an entry emailed to me by my secondary victim The Rock:


Going to town.

We went down there today, the area where the incident took place. Before Victoria, it didn’t really have any special significance to me. It is just one more set of small towns just like any other out there. It just happens to have a lake and explodes in population over the summer months. It has the summer people and the locals who support the summer people. For me, it was a place to visit and then return to the “normal” of my own town.

The super-happy-fun town is how I refer to it now with tongue firmly in cheek. It has taken on a different look to me since May. Everyone I look at gives me a feeling of unease. Every place we go puts me on guard. I didn’t know anyone that Victoria knew, but I can see how uneasy she is down there. It puts me into protective mode. Seems like I get quiet and moody. I remember the fun times that I had in area and all of a sudden they weren’t that fun. To me, it’s like a movie set. Everything out front is shiny and new, but to go behind the set will reveal the hollow dark side. Outwardly, people are friendly, but it’s just a fa├žade. Who answered Victoria’s screams for help? Who has supported her in her time of need? The people of super-happy-fun town are blissfully unaware. They fail to see the imperfection of their perfect community. Was it because she was a relative outsider? Was it because, as we know now, the organism was a well known a-hole? Is it the most sinister to me, it is all financial? There was no headline of “Resort Community Shocked Over Rape” Couldn't have that, might lower the receipts. It just pisses me off so much that there was no community outrage, no community help and for us at least, no community.



I feel the exact same way about the community. The Rock has great insight into what I am going through and as far as I can see The Rock is dead on. Although there are few I wish so much there were no secondary victims to my suffering.



Victoria Placeo

Saturday, February 7, 2009

So Wrong On So Many Different Levels

I am shocked at how hard life is after being raped, but more importantly, I am shocked at humanity, and the community I lived in. YOU HAVE TO READ THIS, HERE IS WHAT IS GOING ON:

The organism and I used to go to an bar together while we were dating. After the breakup we both continued going to that bar, and quite honestly we did not have bad blood at that time, in fact I never had bad blood towards the organism.

Now, the night of the rape, we were both at that bar. Things were fine for a while , then the organism got huffing and mouthy with me so I left in a cab, alone and went home.

After the rape and criminal proceedings I only had one option for a civil suit. It was against the bar.

It is called a Dram Shop and here is the definition "Legislation, effective in many states, dictating that an individual or establishment that issues alcohol to an intoxicated person is strictly liable for any harm caused by that person."

I chose not to go that route because for me I did not believe that the bar had anything to do with the organisms actions.

HERE ARE THE SLAPS IN THE FACE:

1. The organism was a regular at the bar and the bar still has a picture of it on its myspace website. THAT'S RIGHT A CONVICTED RAPIST ON THERE BUSINESS WEBSITE!! Slap in the face for me and a dumb business decision.

2. A theatre group is holding a play for a local group that's fights violent crime against women. THEY ARE HOLDING THE PLAY AT THE BAR WITH A CONVICTED RAPIST ON THEIR MYSPACE SITE!

3. The community, the bar, the organization the funds are going to, who had a communal and personal relationship with me never bothered to help me. While I live on food pantry and struggle to get my mind back in order, THEY ARE HAVING A F@*KI@G PLAY FOR VICTIMS.

4. THEY WERE THE ONLY PEOPLE I COULD SUE AND I DIDN'T BECAUSE I FELT IT WAS NOT RIGHT TO HOLD THEM ACCOUNTABLE AND NOW THEY TRY TO HELP OTHERS AND NOT ME.

So here it is in a nutshell and I am all caps on this one:

A BAR THAT KNOWS ME, WHOM WAS MY ONLY RIGHT TO SUE, AND I DID NOT, IS NOW HOLDING A PLAY FOR A LOCAL ORGANIZATION FOR VICTIMS AND DIDN'T RAISE AND EYEBROW TO ME!!

ANNNNNNNNDDDDDDDD THEY HAVE MY CONVICTED RAPIST ON THERE MYSPACE BUSINESS PAGE!!

Advice, remarks, empathy, ANYTHING?



Victoria Placeo



Friday, February 6, 2009

Online Support Group for Survivors of Rape and Sexual Assault

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Although RASA Survivors is just in its infancy, I have received good feedback. Here is an email I received from member of RASA Survivors:


I've been corresponding with a few women from RASA and wanted to thank you, For it has helped me see things from my daughter's angle. It's so strange to me though, you would think in a public/private anonymous forum people would vent or share, but i see everyone is very quiet on RASA.

I suppose the sharing comes after the acceptance.

GOD bless you, for making it possible for me to learn and put me in touch with other women who NEED one another. I think in a mysterious, wonderful way I have truly touched one young lady's life and she has touched mine! I'll share details another time.
It touched me that by making such a site that individuals are actually benefiting.

I created RASA Survivors for 2 reasons:

First, I wanted a social network verses a forum so members could get to know each other better.

Second, there are so many site that give you information of "what you need to do" and where you can go for help. That is great however, I did not believe that another was needed. With RASA Survivors there are resources that are "out of the box" , different ways of healing, an alternative way to survival.

As I said RASA is still new so many resources are not there, but will be shortly. Please help spread the word of RASA so others may heal with us. RASA Survivors can be found at http://www.rasasurvivors.com

Victoria Placeo