Wednesday, July 20, 2011

Casey Anthony’s Release


I have been waiting to write this post for quite some time, in fact during the trial I wrote a post and decided not to post it.  This post is not about whether I thing Casey Anthony is guilty or not guilty, that has been decided and my opinion on her guilt or innocence shall remain silent.  As John F. Kennedy once said:

“Too often we... enjoy the comfort of opinion without the discomfort of thought.”

However as many of you know I do openly share my opinion of most things…….why not it is my blog.  So what this post is about are the people’s reaction to the Casey Anthony Verdict and her release and yes it will relate to rape.

Moving on……….first off people are nuts!! But I guess I do not need to tell you that.  Casey Anthony was found not guilty……..there is nothing anyone can do about that and she if free now.  But it continues hate, horrendous comments, and of course the death threats………..oh the death threats.

Last time I checked anyone who allegedly killed/murdered someone is not a good thing and premeditation is even worse.  So………..basically many who think that Casey Anthony killed Caylee now is upset, wants her to fry, and are making death threats.  AM I THE ONLY ONE WHO SEES THAT SOMETHING DOES NOT ADD UP?

Murder/Killing = Bad - but yet people want her to die and threaten to kill her?  So what I see is a bunch of people with homicidal thoughts……….if they were to be in any type of doctors office and express these things they would be committed.

The hate and horrible comments………..a bunch of people with chips on their shoulder that are easier to project onto Casey Anthony……..do not get me wrong here I have many chips on my shoulder, but I believe directing them to the proper source is much healthier and makes more sense.

Yes I KNOW a wonderful little girl is now gone and that cannot be forgotten, however if people are really so outraged at the Casey Anthony verdict, perhaps they should look at the law, the system, new laws that could be enacted, instead of wasting precious energy on hating her.

How does this relate to Rape?  Well, I was raped; I was hurt by someone who luckily got time.  However, I wish the rapist no harm in prison and do not hate him.  Why would I, does he care that I would hate him……..NOOOO!  The only person the hate would eat away at is me.

Wishing the rapist harm after he did harm does not add up, just like with the Casey Anthony verdict. 

Rape = Bad ……….wishing someone to get raped or hurt in prison would make me no better than him!

Bottom line - Rape/Murder/Killing = BAD - Hoping for Rape/Murder/Killing = BAD (and not to mention PREMEDITATION!)

So she Casey Anthony is free now…….leave her alone…….if she really is not all there and is a menace to society…….she will do something wrong again. 

And for everyone who hates her, wants her dead, is spending your precious life still angered at the verdict……..go to the doctor, get your blood pressure checked it must be sky high by now, maybe a sedative……….that should help.

By the way this stuff had to stop!! Casey Anthony Dunk Tank Makes A Big Splash At Fair

Wondering what types of comments I am going to get on this one?

Victoria Placeo

Wednesday, July 13, 2011

Rapist Denied Parole

Well as I wrote last week I spoke to the victim coordinator that stated that the man who raped me would be up for parole this month and many times they like to let them out early to make sure they will behave and do well in society. Today I found he was denied parole, not something I was not expecting however and I will explain why.

When I spoke to the victim coordinator she told me there were people I could contact to see how the rapist as doing (not that I would be checking on his wellbeing mind you). She stated I could call the parole board, his counselor at the prison, and the department of corrections. These are all important things to know if you are in a similar situation. It is good to at least have some knowledge if you can contact these places in your state even if it is for your own peace of mind.

So, I did contact the counselor that’s working with him at the state prison. I did not expect much because I know from common sense as well as my past work experience, even when it comes to offenders due to confidentiality, they cannot say much.

She was able to tell me that he had not completed his treatment and therefore she believed he would not be eligible. She then directed me to the board of parole, so I did call there. They gave me the same answer that since he had not finished his treatment, more than likely he would not be eligible. With news I did feel ease, however “more than likely” was not exactly fully comforting.

Another thing I did learn from the board of parole is that convicts are given a written review by the board. If the board thinks that the written review deserves an interview with the convict they are then scheduled for an interview, so it is a two-step process. I do suppose many already know that but I was not up on the info.

So last week after the review I checked and the status was not updated on the site………then of course I checked on Monday, Tuesday, and Wednesday………..and then today there it was ……..DENIED!!!

I do not like to be happy about another’s misfortune no matter what the case, however I was relieved that I have a little more time to continue life and improve my entire self, before dealing with his release.

So things to note:

- See if you can talk to your offenders counselor

- See if you can talk to the victim coordinator of the department of corrections

- See if you can talk to the victim assistance coordinator of the board of parole

If nothing else it may ease your mind or prepare you for the future


Victoria Placeo

Tuesday, July 12, 2011

Personal Belief System after Rape

There of course have been many things to write about since my last post that I still want to cover, but I have a tendency to post when I am emotionally charged. I have to sum up what happened that got me steaming but it does lead up to rape so bear with me.

Fear of being judged and insecurity have been on my mind since last night………..I will explained what happened….

I do not know many people in this town I live in and those I do I do not get together with them often…so last night a girl invited me to go out for a bit and I did. The reason I have a tendency not to go out with certain individuals here is because they push their religion on me……but I did due to the fact that I feel I do not have many options for social engagement.

Moving on, so last night I was out an was talking about wedding planning (I did forget to mention to you all that The Rock and I got engaged last year) . I was talking about having it in our church and she proceeded to say she would come to the reception but not the ceremony…….her basic reasoning for this is that she will not condone a church that has false teachings. What is really odd about that IS THAT WE ARE BOTH CHRISTIANS, BELIEVE IN THE BIBLE, AND JESUS!

The conversation went on about my bad behaviors, how I need to be more obedient or God won’t forgive me etc. While I do believe some of what she said my blood began to boil………how could someone who believes in Christ sit there and judge me and my religion……..IT MAKES NO SENSE!

So what does this have to do with rape? Simply put prior to the rape some peoples beliefs and judgments about me bugged me but I usually brushed them off quite well, I used to look at them as beliefs are beliefs and one should respect others. Prior to the rape, if I found someone who condemned me so much I would have just blew if off and decided not to see them again………..but last night I was PISSED!

My point to all of this is how my emotions, beliefs, guilt, etc. have changed since the rape. I allow people even more to judge me and allow it to bother me. I have guilt after being judged and feel they may be right. Bottom-line I feel like I do not trust myself anymore since the rape.

My entire foundation of who I used to be has been shaken since the rape and I still cannot fully figure out why. I continue to work on these things and the only real theory I have about my foundation being shaken since the rape is this:

I was condemned by the defense a bit, I lost everything and then felt as though I deserved it, and lost a ton of control during and after the rape.

With all these factors I believe I taught myself that I was a not so great person and that no one should trust my judgment……….even myself.

What are your thoughts?

Victoria Placeo

Friday, July 1, 2011

Rapist Up For Parole

Just when you think you may be doing better something slaps you in the face. I have had many topics to write about since I last posted, and still do, but this one trumps them all.

Today first started with a call from a collection agency, I pay my bills on time, so naturally I thought it was a mistake. Not so much it turns out that Crime Victims was supposed to pay all medications relating to the rape; however they did not pay one of about 500.00. A bit upset considering I cannot afford a 500.00 bill right now, but I placed a call to my Crime Victims assistance person and of course due to the fourth of July weekend, they were not in. Not really the point of this post but thought I would mention it.

I also checked the state board of parole today and found that my rapist is up for parole this month. As some of you may recall he was charged with burglary and sexual assault in the 3rd degree. He took a plea bargain that eliminated burglary …………….WHICH ODDLY ENOUGH HELD A HIGHER SENTENCE THEN SEXUAL ASSAULT!!!!

I contacted my victim coordinator from the county that the assault occurred in to see what was happening and what I could do. My main intent was to see if I could get a no contact order or restraining order if he should get paroled. Turns out……….and take note of this….in some states at least the one I am in, the police put a one year protection order for you in the event of something like this. However, if you do not renew in 90 days you do not have the option to get one later, unless the rapist or offender does something.

I have a love/hate relationship with our legal system. I realize that many times it is very rare to even get a plea or conviction in a rape case; however, if the rapist is getting out I think it is common sense that the survivor should be able to get a no contact order. Of course I am not the legal system or anyone of importance to make that decision….so my opinion as a survivor does not count.

If I had enough balls I would try to change that law but at this point I do not.

In regards to my emotions, I was and am dealing with what happened much better than before. That being said I was not expecting to have an uprising of fear when I talked to my victim assistance coordinator.

She said that many times the legal system like to parole individuals a year before their discharge to see if they can behave and establish a life again. The fear that ran through me was just like it happened all over again.

I could not believe that a 35 year charge went to a 10 year charge that then went to a 4 year charge and now may be down to 3.

Yes I am fearful, but logically and rationally I know that for him to come after me would be rare and really not in his best interest. That being said I have never been in prison. I believe people could come out one or two ways. First, not ever wanting to go back and be good and second with vengeance. For my sake I hope it is not the latter.

I am typing this in a bit of an emotional state so forgive any misspellings or wrong verbiage. O h well it is my blog………..I will continue to write what I feel and right now I feel fear!


Victoria Placeo